Can the point of a single father sleeping with his 5-year-old?
Q: Can the point of a single father sleeping with his 5-year-old daughter every night become an issue in favor of the mother who is filing for a divorce petition? A: After I left the father of my children and got an apartment (so that the children could live with me) my son was in the phase of needing to sleep with me every night. My daughter had finally been out of that stage for a year. With two kids you can imagine how crammed the bed was back when both kids felt they HAD to sleep with mom and dad. For awhile this was easily solved in the first apartment as at the time all that was available was a one bedroom. Thus the bunk bed was in the bedroom and I had a mattress on the floor. Eventually I was able to start sleeping in the living room. Despite the lad being asleep in his bed when I left the room, guess who I would wake to find in my bed in the morning. This went for years, even when we managed to get into a two bedroom apartment, and even when we managed to get into a three bedroom apartment. Now we live in a house. The lad does not come to my bed as much any more (thankfully, he is a big boy and though I love him he will take most of the bed in his sprawl). He sleeps mostly in his own bed now, but whenever an upset happens such as the night his kitten died and awhile after he always winds up in it. It is a security thing for him and we have discussions about it. It did not come into play for me. If it is a security or a space issue on your end make sure that you have someone willing to testify on it that has knowledge of your living circumstance and child in case it is needed. Myself I did not stop sleeping with my parents until 6 or 7. After we moved into the house I grew up in they allowed my brother and I adjustment time that Im not sure he even remembers. We had to sleep on the floor though the nights we insisted on being in their room. The person that thinks it gross I question where their mind is. Good luck Papa. Your baby is going to need all the emotional support you can give her. Maybe something that you can do during this is look for some books to read with her on being a big girl and sleeping in her own bed if you arent already in that process. Some people have sick minds, and I hope that whatever happens the mother does not contribute to any problems. It is important to work together for the child even when no longer married.